Nobody wants to see the weight lifting, the several mile runs, the pain of not being able to go home or the thousands upon thousands of practice shots just be able to sink a game winner or the tears from frustration because you can’t win the “big one”…. They just want to see you get drafted number 1, win multiple MVPs and win a ring.
Nobody wants to see the hours of studying binary codes, reading books and going to class or breaking rules to pursue your fascinations, how you dropped out of college or how your brilliant idea was rejected or why you were kicked out of your own company or how taking drugs are cool… They just want to see the iPod, FaceTime on a cellphone and become one of the greatest inventors of all-time.
Nobody wants to know you never knew your real father, or that you got kicked off the football team your senior year in college or that you got beat up on your birthday and you didn’t start acting until you were 23 or you had days when your checking account matches a winter day in Alaska… They just want to see two Oscars, billboards with your face on it and you in a blockbuster film every year, since 2014.
MADE by Cam Newton in April ’13 GQ and Newport Ad in June issue of Essence
Photoshoot for Belk modeling the new Cam Newton inspired line, MADE.
“You can do anything you put your mind to.”- Mommy
I never really grasped that quote until about two years ago. I didn’t fully believe until about a year and a half ago. But it’s true. Every human is wired the same. We all dream big and have aspirations and goals. We also all have obstacles, tragedy, unforeseen circumstances and so forth. I believe 95% of all people have thought about something great. Something that when they thought about it scared them. It made them say, “naw this is stupid” or “people wont go for it” or “I cant afford to waste my time on this”. Then how many times have you turned around and saw something incredible come along and say, “why didn’t I think of that?”, or worse, “damn, I thought of that before.”
At some point every great thing, every innovation, every invention, was written off as stupid, dumb, and/or a waste of time. From the telephone to Instagram, they were the 5% who just kept along their path, followed their dream and overcame every obstacle. We can all do it. There is enough sunshine for us all. Hollywood isn’t running out of roles. The music industry isn’t turning away good music. Art galleries are begging to be filled. People are yearning for something fresh and new, and we all are capable.
These six books changed my life. Out of the six, I would recommend The Artist Way, How to Get Out of Your Own Way and The 48 Laws of Power to anyone, in any profession. These books may not help you, and they may offend some people even but my point is you have to change your mind. You have to change your way of perceiving reality. Success is a long, hard, tumultuous journey but its conquerable. We are all geniuses, you just have to figure out in what.
This is my first produced movie. Its crude, out of date and probably the worse movie ever but Im very proud of myself for creating it. Production and technology can be improved but creativity should not be wasted. Enjoy the first Big Black Brain Production, “Pregnant Zombie Lady”, music by Snow White’s Poison Bite.
Webster defines Selfish as, “concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others.” We are raised to believe that being selfish is wrong. I believe greed is wrong. Robbery and murder are wrong. But putting yourself first; your happiness and pleasing yourself FIRST, is not wrong.
On the contrary we are taught that being SELF-less is ok. Taking your own emotions, benefits and overall well-being out of the equation for the “greater good” of a situation, is ok. We are told that sacrificing our happiness is noble and commendable. With the exceptions of a parent to a child, when has this ever benefited anyone? Never. When has making yourself less happy made you feel good about yourself. Never. Think about how many people you know that would be better off is they were more about self (selfish) instead of less about self (selfless). We all know that athlete, actor, friend, uncle, who tried to bring everybody along and wanted share his happiness because they were taught to put their “greater good” second.
We may believe we commit “selfless acts” daily. However, we are essentially “paying it forward”, hoping to get something in return. Whether your giving to the homeless man or holding a door for a lady. Your hoping to be blessed in return for helping the less fortunate, and your most definitely holding that door to look at that lady’s butt. My point is, when was the last time you’ve consciously been selfish for your “greater good“? When was the last time you treated yourself for your “greater good“? We go daily suppressing our own happiness and trying our best to make the world happy. Well let me tell you, happiness is in the heart of the beholder. If you are making an effort daily to love yourself and make yourself happy, your world will be happy. You’ll surround yourself with happiness because you will know what happiness looks like because you look at it in the mirror.
Take yourself on a date. Go to the park and read a book after work. Go find a swing and swing til you can’t stop thinking about the freedom of when you were a child. Life is hard enough. Bills, war, gas prices, poverty, taxes and on and on are all facts that we can’t control but our HAPPINESS is solely dependent on you being more SELFISH.
A camera and a vision. Projects coming soon.